The Circle of Love and Hate

The opposite of strong love is mild dislike. The opposite of strong hate is mild like.
Love and hate are intense, passionate feelings that consume attention. Who a person is can be defined by what they do and what they care about.
At extreme love and hate, a person can go back and forth between them.
- In Rom-Coms people that hate each other fall in love.
- In real life people that love each other fall in hate, become ex’s.
When we don’t care at all about something it’s “iced.”

Use the Circle of Love and Hate to Eliminate a Bad Habit

Step 1. Identify bad habits you want to eliminate.
Step 2. Pick one bad habit to eliminate.
You’re now its opponent. You’re on the other team. Focus negative attention on your opponent – judge it, look for flaws.
Step 3. Love the better health and life you’ll have once you get rid of it.
Step 4. “Go over the Top” - Acquire knowledge that’ll make you hate the habit and keep feelings (motivation) high.
Step 5. Take actions (skills) to eliminate the habit you hate.
Step 6. Ignore it. Let time and neglect lower your intensity, put it on ice.

Note – Don’t Yo-Yo bad habits you love by trying to cut back, only like them. When you cut it back, it will grow back to love levels.

Step 1. Identify good habits you want to acquire.
Step 2. Pick one good habit to acquire that’s Iced. You’re it’s champion. You’re on the it’s team. It’s now who you are.
Step 3. Love the better health and life you’ll get from the good habit.
Step 4. Acquire knowledge to make you like the habit and get to the Flirting Phase. Experiment in the Flirting Phase – don’t buy a $2K bike, burrow one. Failure is OK.
Step 5. Use motivation and skills to increase frequency, build relationship. Love is needed to sustain a healthy habit. You need only like the habit - get wedded to, love, the results. It’s easiest to sustain when you love the activity and results.
Fight Fading by Fluxing – make changes to keep it interesting.